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Embrace the Mess, Work Your Side Hustle, Find a Monumental Relationship, and Become the BADASS BABE You Were Meant to Be

The Big Life

The Big Life will help you tap into your ambition, honor your dreams, and create your own version of The Big Life.

Praise for The Big Life

“I read this book in about 2 days, and filled it with so much highlighter than it now resembles a textbook… Shoket has indeed created the new it-guide for all career women. This is the book I’m giving to all of my friends this year.”

Book Riot

Diane Von Furstenberg

“The Big Life! Go for it girls…believe in your strength and live your dreams.”

Diane von Furstenberg, fashion designer, philanthropist and New York Times bestselling author of The Woman I Wanted To Be

“Ann is a phenomenal champion for women. She makes us all feel seen, heard and, most importantly, validated.”

Issa Rae, creator and star of the HBO series Insecure and New York Times bestselling author of The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl

“Ann has always seen the power and potential in young women. The Big Life helps make all our dreams closer than ever.”

Lauren Conrad, designer and New York Times bestselling author of Lauren Conrad Celebrate

You always knew you’d do big things.

You want The Big Life—that delicious cocktail of passion, career, work, ambition, respect, money and a monumental relationship. And you want it on your own terms.

This mission of this book is to create a sisterhood of young women, like you, who are working through the most complex issues in their lives together. As part of the research for this book, I have had a series of dinners at my apartment in New York City. Each dinner is a group of about 6 or so, friends of a friend of a friend, who come together to talk about the itchy emotions around money, sex, dating, love, friends, marriage, and of course, work.

The intimacy of the conversations with these women and dozens of others has helped the advice in The Big Life evolve from how-to to me-too.

It’s my mission to make you recognize your power—and make the world recognize it too.

Excerpts from The Big Life


Work Life Balance is a Sham. While Piles of Dirty Laundry, an Empty Fridge and a Four-Espresso-a-Day Habit Are Actually Signs You’re Making it.

Work-life balance is a sham. It doesn’t exist. And I don’t think it should….For you, right now, there is no point when work ends and life begins. It’s all work all the time and all life all the time. You want what you do for a living to feel like actual living. That’s the magic trick.”

Stop With the What Ifs

How to Find The Partner Who Honors Your Ambition and Why You Should Stop Worrying About Family and Babies Right Now.

“Maybe you’ll get married and have children before you turn 30. Maybe you’ll decide to have children on your own at 38. Maybe you’ll swear off all dating until you’ve made executive vice president. Maybe you’ll freeze your eggs. Maybe your high school crush was the right one for you after all.…You need to see this piece of your Big Life as full of opportunity to craft a relationship exactly the way you want it instead of seeing it as a rapidly dwindling chance to lock it in before you turn 30/before you run out of eggs/before all the good ones get married…or whatever scary scenarios are running around in your head.”

The Journey Matters

You Can’t Fast Forward to the Spoils

“What if you could totally blow up the path to success and dictate the rules of your own journey? No out-of-touch bosses to make you feel clueless. No slow and steady climb waiting for reviews that never come or budgets to get approved. What if instead of twists and turns, you blazed an entirely new path? It’s a pretty seductive idea, isn’t it?”